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Couples therapist Copenhagen

Articles in English about Relationship and Couples Coaching

Mikael Hoffmann is an experienced couples therapist and coach based in Copenhagen, with over 30 years of practice and the last 10 years exclusively dedicated to couples coaching. His systematic and result-oriented approach is shaped by his background as an engineer and psychotherapist, and is continuously developed through extensive client work and personal insights.

Mikael’s core philosophy is that a good relationship does not come naturally but requires conscious and sustained effort and specific skills. He addresses recurring issues such as poor or destructive communication, constant bickering, feelings of indifference, and the common misconception that a partner cannot change.

In couples coaching, he acts as a “chairman” to ensure both partners feel heard and understood, a “driving instructor” for relationship “traffic rules”, and a “translator” to clarify deeper meanings behind their words.

Methods

His method provides concrete, practical communication tools to build understanding, trust, security, and respect.
These include the Acknowledging Self-Responsible Dialogue (ASD) for constructive conversation, the Three-Step Rocket for expressing needs, and stop/attention signals for managing conflicts and seeking closeness.
He also emphasizes understanding gender differences (masculine and feminine dynamics) to leverage them as strengths rather than drawbacks. Establishing new, healthy habits and rituals, like “sluice time” after work and dedicated “couple time,” is crucial for strengthening the bond.

Attitude

Mikael stresses that while he cannot directly change a partner, a client’s own shift in attitude and behavior frequently leads to positive changes in the partner’s actions. His approach is practical and solution-focused, emphasizing “how” to implement new strategies rather than dwelling on problems. By addressing the root causes, symptoms tend to disappear.

The aim

The ultimate aim is to empower couples to become self-sufficient in handling future challenges, prioritizing effective communication and shared values as the foundation for a lasting relationship.
Mikael’s high success rate of 83% (and 100% for highly motivated clients) reflects the efficacy of his structured methodology.

Par-coach Mikael Hoffmann

www.parforhold-parterapi.dk/couples-therapy-copenhagen

Falling in love and love – background knowledge

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The Chemistry Between Two People

What is the background of infatuation and love in terms of chemistry, physiology, and psychology?
Why has evolution equipped us with these two “entities”?

Chemistry between man and womanInfatuation is a fantastic feeling.
It is one of the best “kicks” one can imagine – completely natural without artificial additives.

Originally, evolution “invented” infatuation so that we could mate with a partner with good genes, ensuring a good upbringing for the offspring.
In this way, we influence the next generation, which can continue the propagation of our own genes.Read More »Falling in love and love – background knowledge

The Hidden Signals of Women and Men

  • Anslået læsetid: 15 min read

How to Read Your Partner’s Body Signals?
signs he's attracted to you

In this article, you will read that body signals are not magic, but pure science.

You will learn how men and women can master the art of flirting – whether you are in a relationship and doing it with your partner, or you are single and looking for a partner.

You will find descriptions of specific signals that men send to women, and other signals that women send to men – which the receiver might find difficult to interpret and understand.

Also, WHY it is so.

If it’s hard to achieve the positive results in the relationship that you desire, you will also be introduced to Couples Therapy Copenhagen with one of the country’s most skilled and effective couples therapists.

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Boundary settings

  • Anslået læsetid: 11 min read

Learn to speak up and set boundaries

In this article you will learn how to improve your life and others’ by setting healthy natural boundaries. How it will make it easier for others to be with you if you master this.

We will also discuss internal and external boundaries and motivation.

Furthermore, you will get 8 examples of things that may prevent you from saying no and setting boundaries.

If it is in relation to your partner that you have challenges with boundary setting, Couples Therapy Copenhagen might be helpful – because if it were easy and simple, you and your partner would have done it a long time ago…

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Prioritization triangle and priorities in relationships

  • Anslået læsetid: 23 min read

“I don’t feel prioritized by my partner….!”

Prioritizing in relationshipsIn this article you will learn why it is more important to prioritize yourself first, and then your partner, to have a good life and relationship.

You will also learn what it means to prioritize yourself first – without being selfish.

It’s about a somewhat different mindset and perspective that will make your life and relationship significantly easier, more enjoyable, and more loving.Read More »Prioritization triangle and priorities in relationships

Passion

  • Anslået læsetid: 5 min read

Passion and Enthusiasm

passion in a relationship

  • Have you found your right place in life with the right person?
  • Do you wake up in the morning excited about the day and the exciting new possibilities and experiences that await you?
  • Are you passionate about what you do and love the people you are with?

Being wholehearted and deeply engaged in something and someone is an important resource and the key to a good life.

IF it is too difficult to change your life for the better on your own, you can speed up the process with the help of professionals, such as a couples therapist Copenhagen or in the rest of the country.
Because if it had been easy to do it yourself, you probably would have done it long ago….
Read More »Passion

When should you divorce your partner? Is divorce the solution?

  • Anslået læsetid: 19 min read

Divorce

When Do You Know It’s Time to Divorce?

In this article, you will see what it takes to avoid divorce with a couples coach.

You will learn about some of the consequences of separation and the benefits of staying together and resolving your issues.

We will also cover the psychological defense mechanisms with strategies and habits in daily life.

If you are in a complicated and painful relationship without love, I have some suggestions on how to make your relationship work optimally again.

There will also be references to how to deal with infidelity and affairs.

Additionally, you will learn about attachment styles and challenges with intimacy.

So if it is too difficult to do on your own it might be a good idea to talk with a couples therapist to find out what can be done.
Read More »When should you divorce your partner? Is divorce the solution?

Midlife crisis in the relationship

  • Anslået læsetid: 9 min read

Help for Midlife Crisis

  • Midtvejskrise i parforholdetAre you experiencing problems in your relationship?
  • Is your partner completely impossible, and has it been going on for a while?
  • Are you being manipulated by your spouse?
  • Do you suspect a midlife crisis as the reason for your challenges?
  • Either your own or your partner’s midlife crisis?

Many different studies have been conducted on various problems on this earth. Not least our human problems with each other and life.

Some studies show that happiness is continually increasing throughout life, while other studies show that there is a low point in the 40s.Read More »Midlife crisis in the relationship

Ultra Short Description of Couples Coaching

  • Anslået læsetid: 4 min read

The Shortest and Easiest Path to a Good Relationship

Relationship Coach Mikael Hoffmann
Every conflict (in a relationship) can only be resolved by understanding, acknowledging, and respecting each other, and finding creative ways to meet our different needs.

A good relationship fundamentally involves: Understanding, Trust, Security, Respect for each other – and Forgiveness.

Love consists of Understanding, Devotion, and the choice to give your partner what they want.
When both partners in the relationship do this and perform active caring actions, they feel the love.
True love is not a feeling, but rather a loving action.

Both Relationships and Love can be learned (if not learned in childhood).Read More »Ultra Short Description of Couples Coaching

The Difference Between infatuation And Love

  • Anslået læsetid: 14 min read

What is Love?

infatuation and love

In this article, you will learn about two concepts in emotional life that are vastly different, but often confused by many people, leading to great frustration and pain in relationships. Therefore, it is important to know the difference between the two.

You will learn to distinguish between infatuation and true love – and you will get definitions of both.

There is a difference between men and women, and we will also work with that. About the differences and unknowns.

You will also get a historical overview with explanations of the concepts.

Read more about therapist for couples at www.parforhold-parterapi.dk/couples-therapy-copenhagen, if you feel that it is too difficult to handle yourself.

Read More »The Difference Between infatuation And Love