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Couples therapist Copenhagen
Articles in English about Relationship and Couples Coaching
Mikael Hoffmann is an experienced couples therapist and coach based in Copenhagen, with over 30 years of practice and the last 10 years exclusively dedicated to couples coaching. His systematic and result-oriented approach is shaped by his background as an engineer and psychotherapist, and is continuously developed through extensive client work and personal insights.
Mikael’s core philosophy is that a good relationship does not come naturally but requires conscious and sustained effort and specific skills. He addresses recurring issues such as poor or destructive communication, constant bickering, feelings of indifference, and the common misconception that a partner cannot change.
In couples coaching, he acts as a “chairman” to ensure both partners feel heard and understood, a “driving instructor” for relationship “traffic rules”, and a “translator” to clarify deeper meanings behind their words.
Methods
His method provides concrete, practical communication tools to build understanding, trust, security, and respect.
These include the Acknowledging Self-Responsible Dialogue (ASD) for constructive conversation, the Three-Step Rocket for expressing needs, and stop/attention signals for managing conflicts and seeking closeness.
He also emphasizes understanding gender differences (masculine and feminine dynamics) to leverage them as strengths rather than drawbacks. Establishing new, healthy habits and rituals, like “sluice time” after work and dedicated “couple time,” is crucial for strengthening the bond.
Attitude
Mikael stresses that while he cannot directly change a partner, a client’s own shift in attitude and behavior frequently leads to positive changes in the partner’s actions. His approach is practical and solution-focused, emphasizing “how” to implement new strategies rather than dwelling on problems. By addressing the root causes, symptoms tend to disappear.
The aim
The ultimate aim is to empower couples to become self-sufficient in handling future challenges, prioritizing effective communication and shared values as the foundation for a lasting relationship.
Mikael’s high success rate of 83% (and 100% for highly motivated clients) reflects the efficacy of his structured methodology.
10 Sure Signs That Your Partner Is Manipulating You In The Relationship
Avoid Manipulations and Manipulative Behavior
In this article, you can read about how you and your partner can become aware of manipulations, which is necessary before you can do anything about the problems.
Manipulations occur in many contexts and on many levels, such as fault-finding, negativity, humiliations, crying, comparisons, anger, avoidance, and much more.
It will become clear to you whether you have a love relationship or a dependency relationship with each other.
Also, how you can use both reward or punishment in an appropriate way to change inappropriate behavior.
Finally, you will be introduced to a concrete communication tool that will help you create understanding and balance in your relationship.
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